If you’re reconnecting with old friends (or connecting with new ones), it’s common to suggest that you go out to coffee or go out to dinner.
Is it just me, or is this a lack of imagination?
Don’t get me wrong – I like meeting up with friends and catching up. But that doesn’t have to involve driving somewhere, paying for parking, and then paying $5 for a cup of black coffee of $25 for a meal. It’s just not my favorite way to catch up with people. Restaurants and bars tend to be loud, and they harm opportunities for relaxed, intimate, open conversation.
Today I tried an alternative. I turned going out for coffee into coming over for breakfast. A friend I haven’t seen in months came by, and together we made bacon, eggs, fruit, and coffee, then enjoyed them in comfort and relaxation and privacy. We controlled our space and our experience, playing good music and speaking our minds. We wrapped it all up in about the same time we would have spent stooped over empty cups of coffee at a table at a coffee shop. But this morning will stick in my friend’s memory better than any coffee shop meeting.
There are alternatives to going for a cup of coffee or going out to eat. Why not try to save some money and create better experiences? You could try to make a better breakfast and coffee, or you could:
- Go for a walk in the park
- Take a hike
- Pack a picnic
- Sit on your porch (or theirs)
- Go to the pool
The key is to create action and opportunities for great experiences and intimate conversation. Those things are best had with a little imagination, and they will only occasionally be happening in restaurants or coffee shops.