Category: Friendship

Men, We Have Better Options Than Meeting for Coffee

This blog post is for men. I’m learning that “meeting for coffee” should be rare and used only in the last resort as a way to hang out with your bros. Can you really look at the world around you and everything you could be doing with your body and mind and tell me that […]

Read More..

This Is the Time for a Renaissance in Your Long-Distance Friendships

You love spending time with them. You’ve accumulated great memories together. You’re sad when they decide to move on. You promise to stay in touch (and mean it). And you hardly ever talk to them again. It’s hard to admit, but it’s true nonetheless: most of us are bad at long-distance relationships of any sort. […]

Read More..

Sports Literacy and Male Friendship

Want instant male friendship? Join a pickup game of football. The other day I came across one such game on the field of the Citadel. I was out there for a volunteer event, but some dudes wisely capitalized on a lull in the action to start a game. And I joined in. We didn’t need […]

Read More..

Socialize On the Way To Your Goals

I have quite a lot of goals and projects and just 24 hours in the day, so I’ve had to get economical. One of my favorite ways to get the most from a day is to take on my challenges or goals alongside people I want to spend time with. Running is probably my favorite […]

Read More..

Traditions Are Rehearsals: How To Evolve the Perfect Holiday

This Thanksgiving has gone off without hardly a hitch. It’s been a thing of beauty – all the traditions we follow each year have just been better this year than last: Thanksgiving dinner, Black Friday pancake breakfast, the gift exchange, the skeet shoot, the Christmas tree hunt, the Christmas card photos. After doing these things for years […]

Read More..

The Bond of Action: Why Friends Should Sweat Together

I was never really an athlete in my younger days. Sure, I played some flag football, played some pickup games, and the rest. But dedicated, hard-going, competitive and cooperative training? Not so much. The shame is that I missed something most athletes know: the bond of friendship that comes from shared action.* Acquaintances who sweat together become […]

Read More..

How Our Business Stories Can Bring Us All Together

I don’t have much in common with the person who cuts my hair. We have obvious differences in age, experience, background, and work (I’m a technology marketer and she is a hair stylist). But as with all humans who look different at first glance, there’s something deeper that ties us together: business. Yesterday I had […]

Read More..

There Are Alternatives to Going Out for Coffee

If you’re reconnecting with old friends (or connecting with new ones), it’s common to suggest that you go out to coffee or go out to dinner. Is it just me, or is this a lack of imagination? Don’t get me wrong – I like meeting up with friends and catching up. But that doesn’t have to […]

Read More..

The Values and Traits Behind My Best Relationships

As I round out 365 days of daily blogging (today is day 364), I have asked some of my good friends to send me questions they’d like to see me answer on my blog. Grant Parker asks:  What are the values you most look for when forming relationships? Great question! Any answer I give here will […]

Read More..

An Easy Stress-Test for Your Integrity

A big part of integrity is continuity of character – in other words, being pretty much the same person in all places and circumstances. But how do you know if you have it? Look to your circle of relationships. How would you feel if you gathered people from all areas of your life – work, friends, family […]

Read More..

5 Benefits of Living with a Roomate

Besides getting someone else to help pay your rent, there are a few reasons you should consider getting a roommate to be a major life improvement: 1. Accountability Having a roommate will regulate your behaviors and patterns at home. It’s harder to justify sleeping until noon on Saturdays if you have a roommate who is up […]

Read More..

4 Ways I’m Building Intentional Friendships

I want intentional friendships that are deep, reliable, and life-giving. To get those kinds of friendships, I need spend time with my friends that isn’t just “hanging out”. Here are four ways I’m building intentional friendships in my life right now: 1. Book club(s) If you care about ideas and personal growth, you want your friends to be along […]

Read More..

5 Reasons To Help Your Friends On Moving Day

If you have an opportunity to help friends or family with a move, do it. Here’s why: 1. You’re going to get free training for your moving day. If you’ve never moved before, don’t let lack of moving knowledge be the reason. Get some training now by helping people you care about. When the time comes for […]

Read More..

Use a Rule of Improv To Co-Create Great Adventures with Friends

It strikes me that most of my best group adventures I’ve lived seem to have followed a core rule of improv acting. In improv, when your partner suggests a scenario, you never contradict them. You can and should add to their suggestion and build from there. For example, a good improv goes like this: IMPROV PARTNER 1: […]

Read More..

Putting Together a Fellowship: An Intentional Approach to Friendship

In The Fellowship of the Ring, the hero Frodo has to journey to Mordor to destroy the Ring of Power, a metaphor for (you guessed it) power itself. Own quests may not be so dramatic. We might just want to find a good wife and raise healthy kids. We might just want to start a company, or master a sport, […]

Read More..