Celebrate the Fleeting Goodness of Doomed New Year’s Resolutions

Happy new year!

Here’s a thought as we head out into 2019: though we know many resolutions (ours and those of others) are doomed to failure, we don’t have to join the cynical failed-self-improvement doom parade about it.

Attempting to change your own life is a holy thing. While it has become obvious that a large number of people don’t keep up with their goals throughout the year, that’s no reason to ignore the miracle that is happening in these first few weeks.

Let’s get self-interested for a moment.

For the next few weeks, people on net are going to be acting with more kindness toward us. People are going to complain less to us. People are going to give more of their time to improving life in the world for others. People are going to try to spend more time with their families (the other humans we deal with every day). People are going to be working out alongside us at the gym.

Our coworkers are going to be working harder and more creatively. Our painfully shy friends are going to experiment with being more outgoing, and our painfully outgoing friends are going to practice introspection. Our creatively-inhibited family members might start writing, painting, singing, playing, and practicing all kinds of art for us to enjoy. Our single friends are going to get bold and get noticed (and may decide to notice us). Our grandparents are finally going to clean out the attic, and our parents are finally going to start enjoying empty-nesthood.

This is all a net benefit for us. We should celebrate it, even though we know it won’t (usually) last.

And though we know it won’t last forever, we can do some things to help the spirit of new creation last longer in 2019.

Maybe we can encourage others in their goals. Maybe we can encourage them to find joy in the climb instead of the summit. Maybe we can give them access to good books about continued habits (Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done is good -though ironically I haven’t finished this one just yet) . Maybe we can make it clear that it’s OK to fail, to start over, to get back on the horse, and to change course.

Maybe we can stick to our own goals.

And maybe this year, in the spirit of celebrating New Year’s ambition, we can go after our goals as a team.

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James Walpole

James Walpole is a writer, startup marketer, and perpetual apprentice. You're reading his blog right now, and he really appreciates it. Don't let it go to his head, though.

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