There are few things that give me more confidence than insane physical exertion.
There are few things that *require* more confidence in me than approaching an attractive girl and asking for her number.
Today I learned that it helps to do the “insane physical exertion” beforehand.
My friend and I had just finished a day of biking that took us on 74 miles of Atlanta’s Silver Comet. We were already nearing our low points when we decided to race the last couple of miles. So we were pretty exhausted when we came in.
I wasn’t too exhausted to notice the cute girl finishing her marathon training.
We started up a conversation, I got to know her running goals, and I went in for the big ask.
She wasn’t interested.
Maybe it was the smell and disheveled appearance of a guy who has been biking most of the day. Maybe it had something to do with the fact that she was engaged. Who knows? Who cares? I took the shot, and it was kind of easier than usual.
Probably had something to do with the exhaustion and the triumph.
There’s just something about exercise. I’ve gotten up and danced on a stage after a 10K. I’ve chatted up lots of strangers after races. I even gave a public talks within hours after running a 5K once, and I remember feeling pretty damn confident about it. By the end of a long endurance thing, I’m usually more at peace (less excess energy, more meditative time) and certainly not as worried about rejection.
I’m going to try a bit more often to capitalize on the confidence of my crazy exercise days. When I’m utterly exhausted and triumphant, I’m in a fine state to push my limits.
Even if I *do* smell bad.