Sometimes You Don’t Need to Psychologize a Loss

I didn’t finish everything I wanted to accomplish this week.

I didn’t work hard enough. I didn’t plan well enough. I didn’t prioritize well enough.

When this happens, I sometimes get the thought – from my own training or from other people – that I must have something flawed in myself. Over-ambition, perhaps? Self-sabotage? Fear? Unprocessed guilt? The urge to psychologize failure in these situations is strong. I do it, other people do it, and we do it to each other.

But maybe sometimes a failure is just a failure.

Is this a pattern? Do you feel like a loser? Maybe you need to examine this more closely. There is a time and place for psychology.

But do you know what went wrong? Do you know how you’ll solve it? And are you on the right track – just not far enough along? Then maybe you don’t need to spend the time beating yourself up for it, or analyzing yourself for suppressed trauma. Maybe stopping to poke and prod yourself won’t help you get to where you want to be.

That’s how today felt. And it was relieving to realize that instead of questioning myself, I had the option instead to trust the process and keep moving.

Maybe you feel the same way. Maybe it’s one of those losses that’s just a loss – pure and simple. Maybe you just need to go to bed, wake up, and keep doing the work until it’s done.

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James Walpole

James Walpole is a writer, startup marketer, and perpetual apprentice. You're reading his blog right now, and he really appreciates it. Don't let it go to his head, though.

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