I’m one of those few people who think pleasure (real pleasure) can make human beings better rather than worse. So every party I host or attend is a kind of philosophical test.
I want my guests (and fellow guests, when I visit another host) to always walk away from my parties with pride in themselves and love toward others. I want them to have met someone important or interesting to them. I want them to have said something truthful, vulnerable, or passionate.
I never want people to walk away “wasted,” embarrassed, isolated, embittered, envious, or anything less than proud and excited.
No, it’s not really possible to get screaming drunk (or “status-drunk”) under this schema and succeed at my goal of “good pleasure”. But a great many parties can be constructive rather than just consumptive or destructive, and I can design my parties with these ends in mind.