Worry about having a good time at social events?

You aren’t alone, but you probably also aren’t prepping yourself to do the things required for a good time. And you’re certainly not being present to enjoy your time with friends or colleagues.

There is an alternative that doesn’t involve simply waiting for the event to work out for you.

Go in with others’ enjoyment first on your mind. 

If you can get other people dancing, thinking, exploring, exercised, inspiring, or creating, you are bound to have a better time yourself. So instead of putting all the pressure on yourself to perform and create those epic moments of connection that make social events great, spend time and resources to share those epic moments with more people.

Think from the beginning about how you can help other people have fun at the event. Approach it as a value creation opportunity – not as any kind of moral heroism. You’ll find that helping people not openly opens doors but completely transforms experiences.

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