I’m far more outgoing than I was when I was younger. But even I still get a bit of nerves going into a party . What’s more, I don’t often find plain conversation interesting enough. I want to be engaged, active, and using my creative faculties.
Maybe you’re like me: at your festive best only when the productive part of your mind gets to take on some kind of interesting, purposeful action.
There’s a simple solution to this problem: find a job at the party. Make yourself useful.
For a couple of recent parties, this has meant taking photos and videos – documenting the night. But it might also mean ushering guests in, helping to wash the dishes, or helping to make a meal.
The work proves to be an excellent social icebreaker (for instance, few people really hate to have their photo taken – most people love it). Through service you earn an instant position of belonging within the party.
More importantly, having a bit of work to do will keep you in that beautiful flow of value creation that helps you to thrive. You’ll be in a collaborative, problem-solving mode that will make you even more intellectually and personally interesting to other party guests.
Look for these opportunities. Play and work should go hand in hand.